Let me school you a little about friendship

February 20, 2015

Let me school you a little about friendship

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

My dear friend walked home along the river’s edge.

Charly walked among saw-toothed crocodiles
(their father is the king of pride and perdition;
they go to, fro, up and down until judgment day)
because the road took her six more miles to get home.

We buried my friend today – what was left of her
because I wouldn’t, couldn’t wait fifteen minutes
and take her home by my car, every Friday night.

Had places to go and things to do, Friday night!

I wept bitter tears for my friend, Sunday morning.
Charly knew better than to walk the river’s edge
irregardless of her young-un’s want for dinner

I told her, what they need’s a little respect
because their mother is working a twelve hour shift
and me, I made my own food since I’s twelve years old.
And I’s none the worse after all was done and told.
My dear friend used to make the most wonderful pie.
Charly walked among saw-toothed crocodiles
(out of their nostrils and mouth – smoke and sparks of fire;
their hearts, stone and eyes like the eyelids of morning)
to bring me a heavenly pie on my birthdays.

None made a better rhubarb pie than Charly made.
That’s what I’s thinking, driving by Charly’s place;
social service was herding up her kids with a hurry.

Couldn’t stop. Fifteen minutes late for church dinner.
Weren’t no better friend and a mother than Charly.
Stan Faryna
20 February 2015
Fairfax, Virginia

Maya Angelou – Being a gift unto others #rise

May 29, 2014

I fed upon her words

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Maya Angelou, Still I Rise

She stood shoulders above

She was no god, priestess, queen, diplomat nor elected official, but Maya Angelou exercised the greatest of all powers in creation. She could speak a word and it was done. She was blessed from above like few others. I may be mistaken but I understood her power came by faith and grace.

I also understood that this gentle woman moved mountains with her words. She spoke to stones and they beat again as hearts – even if only for a moment.

Ordinarily, I would join the world in it’s gentle wish for rest for a beloved. But I can not say RIP Maya Angelou. Do not misunderstand me, I have the greatest respect for the woman. Instead, my heart shouts out in joy – RISE HIGHER. RISE UNTO THE GLORY! And I do not believe there is rest in the glory. But greater works. Like the works of stars. Works that never end. Because without their undying light, darkness would overcome.

Michael Jackson

I remember her eulogy for Michael Jackson, “We had him.” I remember how she perfectly captured the memory of the king of pop – that tragic, tortured, brave-hearted hero of our time.

“His hat, aslant over his brow, and took a pose on his toes for all of us.”

I do not know if poets will capture Maya Angelou as she captured Michael Jackson with words that memorialize a man like no stone or gold could ever have done.

How shall we rise?

I do not know if it can be said of her that we had her. Oh, please, please do not misunderstand me. She gave herself to us. She gave us fire, wind, water, air and earth. She told us to unfold our unseen wings. But only those who had ears to listen, heard her. Only those who had eyes to see, saw Maya Angelou. Only those who had ears, heard.

Though I am not a woman or African American. I rose upon her words. And still I rise. She spoke to us all.

Though I am not a woman, she reminded me that I am phenomenal, that my smile shines like the sun and, most of all, that my head, heart and spirit shall not be oppressed by demonic contempt and conceits.

Be a gift unto others

Maya Angelou was gift unto us. That is her greatest gift; it goes beyond the beating of words. She embodied a rare and precious wisdom.

Our gifts are not given for us to enjoy alone, recklessly or stupidly. We were created to be gifts unto each other. This is how we rise. We rise, together.


Stan Faryna
28 May 2014
Fairfax, Virginia



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June 15, 2013


by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Macklemore, Ryan Lewis and Ray Dalton, Can’t Hold Us

There are friends with whom I shall never share poetry. Because, unfortunately, poetry is superfluous to those who lack an intellectual spirit. Or spiritual life.

Or brave heart.

I’m not obsessed with poetry. It’s not a daily ritual for me. Nor weekly. But reading it (or remembering it) on occasion, one may find a place for the genuine – as the American modernist poetess Marianne Moore put it.

Today, there may be no necessity for the genuine when our questions can be managed with addictions, prescriptions, hook ups and outrageous materialism. Until you want to live wholeheartedly, feel strongly and love… fiercely and truly.

And only then will you know that you too cannot live without great books, beautiful music, art, illuminated friends and, oh yes, poetry.

Stan Faryna
15 June 2013
Fairfax, Virginia


by Marianne Moore

I, too, dislike it: there are things that are important beyond all
this fiddle.
Reading it, however, with a perfect contempt for it, one
discovers in
it after all, a place for the genuine.
Hands that can grasp, eyes
that can dilate, hair that can rise
if it must, these things are important not because a

high-sounding interpretation can be put upon them but because
they are
useful. When they become so derivative as to become
the same thing may be said for all of us, that we
do not admire what
we cannot understand: the bat
holding on upside down or in quest of something to

eat, elephants pushing, a wild horse taking a roll, a tireless wolf
a tree, the immovable critic twitching his skin like a horse that
feels a
flea, the base-
ball fan, the statistician–
nor is it valid
to discriminate against ‘business documents and

school-books’; all these phenomena are important. One must
make a distinction
however: when dragged into prominence by half poets, the
result is not poetry,
nor till the poets among us can be
‘literalists of
the imagination’–above
insolence and triviality and can present

for inspection, ‘imaginary gardens with real toads in them’, shall
we have
it. In the meantime, if you demand on the one hand,
the raw material of poetry in
all its rawness and
that which is on the other hand
genuine, you are interested in poetry.

The Corsair: A Promise is a Promise #IWD #IWDfire

March 8, 2013

The Corsair: A Promise is a Promise

Episode Two

This episode is dedicated to women and hot mommas
The Hot Mommas Project is an award-winning social venture that encourages young women to be confident, courageous and strong. Follow @ChiefHotMomma on Twitter to learn more.

The previous episode of The Corsair is here.

Annie Lennox, Sweet Dreams

Stacie Rohr looked at a drawing of her and Rosa Parks holding hands in front of an old Montgomery bus. Stacie thought back to the day Rosa faced the police officers on the bus. Rosa wouldn’t be moved around like an animal.

She leaned out the open bus window and made a promise to Rosa Parks as a policeman pushed her into the back of the police car. She would carry Rosa’s fight for the dignity of the person (human, alien or otherwise] until the end of time.

On December 1, 1955, Stacie Rohr, an illegal alien with two hearts, fell in love with humanity.

“I won’t forget you, Rosa,” she said, and closed her leather-bound journal. “A promise is a promise.”

But Stacie also knew that promises are not always easy to keep. Occasionally, a promise made itself difficult to keep. Because a promise can be its own foil. And several promises – they can easily become labyrinth of negotiation and good faith.

Turning her attention to her Twitter stream, a tweet caught Stacie’s eye.

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PSA: The girls in the windows: Amsterdam and sex tourism (video)

April 19, 2012

PSA: The girls in the windows: Amsterdam and sex tourism (video)

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

You may have heard about Amsterdam’s red light district where underdressed women (from everywhere) sit or stand at large windows or window-doors waiting for sexual solicitations. While most of the window shopping is in one area of the old city, it’s not the only place where you’ll see the working women in windows.

When I’m in Amsterdam, I often pass some of these windows on my way to one of my favorite Amsterdam eateries on Spuistraat: Luden. It’s in a respectable downtown neighborhood and I have to say that Luden has been a consistently good place to eat across the 10 or so years of my visits.

The window girls of Amsterdam

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FYI: @prettypinkpro wants to curate women’s voices that inspire young women to greatness

April 16, 2012

@prettypinkpro wants to curate women’s voices that inspire young women to greatness

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

The other day, I met @prettypinkpro on Twitter. Their tagline is cute.

Making strides…climbing ladders…standing our ground…in fancy high-heeled shoes!

@megdotemail and others are building an online community where young women can be fueled and inspired to greatness.

You can read about them here: http://myprettypinkponies.wordpress.com/about

Nina Simone, Feeling Good

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Wednesday’s Women: @angelamaiers @ardath421 @LisaPetrilli @tobeydeys @DabneyPorte

February 15, 2012

blog soup 02.15.2012

Wednesday’s Women: A Celebration of Woman

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Coldplay, Proof

1. The YOU MATTER Manifesto by Angela Maiers

Writes Angela:

My friend and mentor Seth Godin says, “only reason to give a speech is to change the world”, so that is the context and the inspiration I share this message and manifesto with you:

You matter.

These two words can change your mood, change your mind, and have the power to change lives and the world world if we understand and leverage them in the right way.

My comment:

Bruce Sallan’s promos for his #dadchat with Angela Maiers reminded me of Angela’s message and manifesto. So I experienced her again: her Ted talk and her manifesto. And, again, my heart was filled and my spirit, uplifted.

Listen to Angela at the Ted Talk. Listen with your heart. And be inspired.

Thank you Angela Maiers. Thank you for being you!

Subscribe to Angela Maiers’ blog.

Need more Angela Maiers? Check out the following:

The Courage to Teach

The 5 C’s of Passion Driven Leadership

The Power of Noticing

Whitney Houston and CeCe Winans, Count On Me

2. Expectations and Experience Are the New Competition by Ardath Albee

Writes Albee:

Due to the ease of accessing information online, a big part of what’s changed in the buying process are your customers’ expectations about the experience they’ll have along the way.

Because buyers can self-educate rapidly and much easier than the were able to in the past, they know more. In return for this education, they’ve raised the bar. They expect to continue to receive value each step along the way. And they expect it on their terms…

You’re no longer competing against the vendor with a similar product down the street. It’s the ability to exceed buyer expectations and provide a valuable buying experience that will determine the winner when the time comes to make a purchase decision.

My comment:

I found Ardath Albee via her comment on @BrennerMichael‘s blog post, Will Content Marketing Destroy Social Media. Her insight was all WOW!

And what she said on Michael Brenner’s blog applies to her own discussion on content strategy. Because engagement can’t just be all about your product and service. Great engagement has to have character.

The engagement has to be about them, the buyer, your potential or returning customer, and the human person. The experience, you design, therefore, must implicitly emphasize their relevance, significance, dignity, and agency in the world. Engagement must include the Courage to Teach. Great engagement has always taught and made us feel human again.

Need one example?

Note: If you don’t shed a tear watching this, you need help.

And, yes, what I’m saying is a tall order – especially for people trapped in the boxy mindset of commoditization, business, and fast transactions.

Part of the answer will be re-humanizing marketing with stories that illuminate the things that matter. Like people. Like you and me. And that is actually easy to do with the feeds-and-speeds content that Albee is worried about.

Something for Albee and you to consider. And I know she’ll turn it into Gold. You?

Thank you Ardath Albee. Thank you for being you!

Subscribe to Ardath Albee’s blog.

Need more Ardath Albee? Check out the following:

The Content Marketing Continuum: Part 1

Are Shorter Sales Cycles a Wake-up Call for Marketers?

6 Tips for B2B Vendors Becoming Publishers

Bette Midler, From a Distance

3. The Introvert’s Guide to Leadership by Lisa Petrilli

Lisa explains that introverts can be great leaders.

Introverts can…

1. Rally the troops and inspire their teams.
2. Create presence, be recognized, and rewarded
3. Be decisive and persuasive

That’s what Lisa is saying. And she says much more than that.

My comment:

I discovered Lisa Petrilli via Mike Henry of the Lead Change Group and Mike Henry via my wonderful friend, Dr. Jack King.

As an introvert myself, I have faced the challenges of leadership (and, yes, failed at times). Lisa provides rich insight into how introversion comes with treasures and strength that apply to great leadership, service, and contribution to the world.

Thank you Lisa Petrilli. Thank you for being you!

Subscribe to Lisa Petrilli’s blog.

Need more Lisa Petrilli? Check out the following:

Customer Experience is a Culture not a Project

5 Myths about Introversion from Harvard Business Review

Do Extroverts Have an Advantage in Political Campaigns?

Sarah McLachlan, Angel

4. Femurs and Philanthropy: A Legacy of Kindness by Tobey Deys

Writes Tobey:

Margaret Mead was a cultural anthropologist born at the turn of the 20th century who, throughout her 77 years on the planet, made remarkable contributions to the understanding of what, and why, we humans do the things we do. She was once asked by an interviewer: “What is the first sign you look for to tell you more about an ancient civilization?” (assuming Mead would suggest a broken pot or a primitive tool).

Her answer was surprising: a healed femur

Ms. Mead elaborated: “When someone breaks a femur, they can’t survive to hunt, fish or escape enemies unless they have help from someone else. Thus, a healed femur indicates that someone else helped that person, rather than abandoning them and saving themselves.

My comment:

I found Tobey Deys via her comment to a blog post by Lisa Petrilli. She mentioned something about being Yoda. She captured my heart with the metaphor. Just long enough for me to find my way to her blog. And, WOW, I loved where I landed.

Tobey throws out some ideas how we can contribute, give, and be true. Go read her blog post!

Thank you Tobey Deys. Thank you for being you!

Subscribe to Tobey Deys’ blog.

Need more Tobey Deys? Check out the following:

Just in Time for the Holidays

Einstein. Gandhi. And You. The World Needs You Now Because #YouMatter

Three Little Words

Aretha Franklin, Respect

5. Social Media Girlfriends and Dabney Porte

My comment:

I found Dabney Porte via a mention by Tobey Davis in her blog post, What’s the ROI of Nice? I recognized Dabney’s name from last week’s #Dadchat with @AngelaMaiers.

So I expect to hit a website and get into some blog posts. See if this is something I’m comfortable putting in Wednesday’s Women. But it doesn’t play out that way. I don’t find blog posts. What I find is an invitation to join Social Media Girlfriends.

You Are Cordially Invited to Connect And Engage With Your Social Media Girlfriends 24 Hours A Day, 7 Days A Week By Following #SMGirlFriends

A Video starts to play. And I’m thinking to myself: This is cool and enchanting.

And then: Ouf! I’m not a girl…

I finally realized there’s a link to a blog. But it seems Dabney and the girlfriends are working on things. That’s ok.

Anyway, my point in mentioning my experience of that landing page was that it was enchanting. And I can still hear the song playing in my head as I write this.

Also some words from the video. They are rolling in my brain.

It is because of this beautiful connection that we are changing the world… for the better.

That’s what social media is about. Us. Connecting. Ultimately, helping each other to change the world. Because each of us must tend this garden of life- faithfully, courageously, and gently. In our little ways. For the better. With a little help from our friends.

And, yeah, I hear another song in my head.

Thank you Dabney Porte. Thanks for the RT last week. And, most of all, thank you for being you!

Previous Celebrations of Woman:

Wednesday’s Women (ww004)

Featuring: @Bonnie_Greer @jaynalocke Yasmin Alibhai-Brown @kanter @biebert

Wednesday’s Women (ww003)

Featuring: @wordsdonewrite @bonnie67 @girlygrizzly @atugend @careyfuller

Wednesday’s Women (ww002)

Featuring: @brenebrown @carpathia16 @Nisha360 @Sandra305 @SusanMazza

Wednesday’s Women (ww001)

Featuring: @connectyou @JaneofAustralia @ElizabethKCross @MargieClayman @ginidietrich


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Stan Faryna
15 February 2012
Bucharest, Romania


No fairies were harmed during the writing and publishing of this blog post.

Didn’t we almost have it all! #RIP Whitney Houston

February 13, 2012

Didn’t we almost have it all!

A tribute and apology to Whitney Houston.

by Stan Faryna

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Wednesday’s Women: @Bonnie_Greer @jaynalocke Yasmin Alibhai-Brown @kanter @biebert

February 7, 2012

blog soup 02.08.2012

Wednesday’s Women: A Celebration of Woman

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Ella Fitzgerald, Feelings

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Wednesday’s Women: @wordsdonewrite @bonnie67 @girlygrizzly @atugend @careyfuller

February 1, 2012

blog soup 02.01.2012

Wednesday’s Women: A Celebration of Woman

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

No Doubt, I’m just a girl

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