Recap: @TedRubin @annegeddestweet and more on giving at @BruceSallan’s #dadchat

June 12, 2012

How do you nourish a spirit of giving in your kids?

If I can stop one heart from breaking, I shall not live in vain; If I can ease one life the aching, Or cool one pain, Or help one fainting robin Up to his nest again, I shall not live in vain.

– Emily Dickinson

Make yourself necessary to somebody.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Everybody can be great. Because anybody can serve.

– Martin Luther King, Jr.

When a poor person dies of hunger, it has not happened because God did not take care of him or her.

It has happened because neither you nor I wanted to give that person what he or she needed.

– Mother Teresa

How do we teach our kids to give?!

This was the big question on @BruceSallan’s DadChat with Ted Rubin (@TedRubin), Anne Geddes (@annegeddestweet) and all of the DadChat women, friends and fans.

This special DadChat was dedicated to helping raise funds for shot@life (@ShotAtLife), a movement to protect children worldwide by providing life-saving vaccines where they are most needed. Over $1,400 was raised for Shot@Life in the online DadChat auctions and even more was made in direct donations – all in ONE HOUR!

Note: This #DadChat RECAP appeared last week on Bruce Sallan’s blog.

Ted Rubin

Ted Rubin is a daddy, social marketing strategist, and CMO that emphasizes ROR, Return on Relationship. Bruce says that he is the most followed CMO on Twitter! Ted’s website is here.

Anne Geddes

Anne Geddes is a world-class photographer known for her award-winning photographs of babies, flowers, and pregnant moms. Her photos are icons that celebrate birth, life, and joy.  Her website is here.

Shot@Life

Shot@Life educates, connects and empowers Americans to champion vaccines as one of the most cost-effective ways to save children’s lives in developing countries. Give here.

The Auction

1. Hotel and airfare for two to Los Vegas

Donated by Holly Pavlika (@HollyPavlika)

Winning bid by @TedRubin.

2. 2GB iPod Shuffle #2

Winning bid by @LovelyLu

3. 2GB iPod Shuffle #1 and an autographed, limited-edition book by Anne Geddes

Winning bid by @JPLoveCotton

4. Autographed, limited edition book by Anne Geddes

Winning bid by @Bruce Sallan

The transcript for this #dadchat is here:

http://beta.hashtracking.com/ht-pro-rpt/cjeffers-dadchat-2012-05-31

Join the fun! Log-in to #dadchat every Thursday night at 6pm PST: http://www.tweetchat.com/room/dadchat

Snips and Bites From the Dadchat

The tweets listed below only represent a fraction of the chat and participants. See the transcript for the complete record of this epic chat.

John Lennon, Imagine

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Recap: Do you communicate or spam? @BruceSallan @SmartBoyDesigns @chattyprof #DadChat

June 4, 2012

Are you on the same page? With whom?

That’s what effective communication is all about, right? 

The only way to solve our problems is to work together with others (family, friends, colleagues, and, sometimes, strangers). Little problems or big. That’s how it is. We have to build consensus about the facts and the goals. We have to make decisions about the best use of commonly accepted facts and resources. In other words, the bottom line is effective communication. Without it, we ain’t getting anywhere.

Not you. Not me. No one.

Note: This #DadChat RECAP appeared last week on Bruce Sallan’s blog.

Simon & Garfunkel, Bridge Over Troubled Water

That’s what people were talking about in Bruce Sallan’s DadChat with Professor Ellen Bremen (@chattyprof) and Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns). Here’s the three big questions that the awesome people of DadChat considered:

What is effective communication?

How do we get on the same page?

What gets in the way of us hearing what each other has to say?

The transcript of this #dadchat is here:

http://beta.hashtracking.com/ht-pro-rpt/cjeffers-dadchat-2012-05-24/#transcript

Join the fun! Log-in to #dadchat every Thursday night at 6pm PST: http://www.tweetchat.com/room/dadchat

Snips and Bites from the #DadChat

The tweets listed below only represent a fraction of the chat and participants. See the transcript for the complete record of this mind-blowing chat.

What is effective communication?

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

What is effective communication?

Ellen Bremen (@chattyprof):

When both sender and receiver “get it” 🙂

Angie Mozilo (@azmomofmanyhats):

Communication makes existing living.

Brad Marmo (@readbradthedad):

I was a Communications major in college, does that count?

Kenna Griffin (@profkrg):

I teach in a Mass Comm program!

Allana Prat (@allanapratt)

I think we teach what we’re meant to learn! I love intimacy- with my beloved, myself, my son, w/nature,a daily practice.

Chris (@CanadianDadBlog):

Bah! Work emergency, I have to bail tonight, sorry! I hope to catch up on the transcript later. Thanks! Have fun!

Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan):

Anyone read the Five Languages of Love? THAT helped define things for my wife and me!

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

Karen Horney’s The Feminine Psychology was my wake up call. That was 20+ years ago.

Greg Laycock (@GregLaycock)

It’s super hard for a single dad, but what I’ve learned is that you need to have 1-on-1 chatting time with each child, and often.

Brad Marmo (@readbradthedad):

I give single parents mad props. Can’t even imagine.

Aaron Kilby (@kilby76)

Me, me me… LOL RT @BruceSallan So, who thinks they communicate better with their kids or their spouse?

Sonya (@Sonya_LeanOnUs)

If it’s personal stuff my son always comes to me.

Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns):

Rather ironic. Logged in tonight to chat about effective communication. Twitter not being so effective. All I can do is let it be.

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

I believe the best way for communication to work is when you have a thirst for knowledge. Soak up information like a sponge.

How do we get on the same page?

Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns):

If you make listening and observation your occupation you will gain much more than you can by talk. – Robert Baden-Powell

Angie Mozilo (@azmomofmanyhats):

Listening is the first step in effective communication!

Bridget Heckman (@theluxcrystal)

I think when your child talks to you, listen-really listen and make eye contact.#theymatter 

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

Great Book on Listening by Mortimer Adler > How to Speak. How to Listen 

Russell Bonchu (@squirleywrath):

I just took a boy scout training called #woodbadge, which deals a lot with active & empathetic listening, among other things

Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns):

If it wasn’t for my Mom, I would be nothing. Her communication skills are superb.

Bento Leal (@empathy4life):

Empathic listening helps with my 3 adult children and 2 sons in law

Allana Prat (@allanapratt):

@faryna I like to stop talking to myself and in the silence see what arises, or just be OK not knowing and being…

Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan):

HOW do you turn off talking to yourself?

Ellen Bremen (@chattyprof):

I teach my students about paraphrasing: Repeating what the other person says in your own words

@smartboydesigns posted about a form of listening today: Asking questions 🙂

Carolyn Nicander Mohr (@wonderoftech):

Listening tip: paraphrase what the person is saying to make sure you’re understanding the message.

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

Another tip. Don’t be afraid to ask questions if you don’t understand.

Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns):

I need to hear these [listening tips]. I’m not always the best at listening.

Dr. Santhan Reddy (@drsanthan):

Paraphrasing helps to understand the facts. Try and validate the feeling too. You may be feeling _____.

Allana Prat (@allanapratt):

My son loves that I don’t multitask- I focus right on him or say hang on while I finish up- never pretend to listen

What gets in the way of us hearing what each other has to say?

Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan):

Hmmm, the question is not OUR listening to our kids but THEY listening to US!? Don’t you think?

Allana Prat (@allanapratt):

What speaks louder than words?

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

Actions

Mimi Baker (@MimiBakerMN):

Absolutely true! RT @MunkayJacked: Actions @allanapratt: What speaks louder than words?

Ellen Bremen (@chattyprof):

So true… we pay attention to the nonverbals about 95% over the verbals.

Russell Bonchu (@squirleywrath):

Yes

Christian Hollingsworth (@SmartBoyDesigns):

I know I ALWAYS learn more from example than words.

Ellen Bremen (@chattyprof):

I remember Oprah saying about Maya Angelou that our kids respond to our reaction when they walk in a room

Dr. Santhan Reddy (@drsanthan):

True. When my 1 year old falls, she searches for my reaction, before she decides to cry

Allana Prat (@allanapratt):

I have trouble listening to when to slow down, trust, let go.

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

S/times we can’t listen cause we don’t understand what is said or hear what is being communicated. We hear facts but miss meaning

Cupcake Cuties (@CupcakeCutieKit):

Yes me too!!! @allanapratt: @brucesallan I have trouble listening to when to slow down, trust, let go.

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

Ha ha, it’s the selective hearing we all have! @CrossBetsy: My son had to move out before he admitted he heard evrything I said

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

You’re shining @MunkayJacked! Shining bright.

Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan):

We each have diff languages of love and learning to “speak” the others is the challenge!

Vincent Daly (@CuteMonsterDad):

A lot of the lack of communication between spouses is rooted in insecurity or fear. Easier to blame than to be vulnerable.

Allana Prat (@allanapratt):

I have a HARD time “receiving” judgment!

Randy Thio (@ideabloke):

Isn’t it funny how the act of trying to avoid an argument only fuels it further?!

Related Blog Posts

How to Communicate That You’ve Changed Your Mind by Ellen Bremen

A Dad’s Letter to His 18-Year-Old Son (Better Men Blog)

How much time do you spend commenting on blogs? by Christian Hollingsworth

Changing Your Grip by Scott Hanley

Ten Elementary Differences Between Men and Women, Part One by Bruce Sallan

The First Duty of Love is to Listen by Stan Faryna

You Are My Sunshine by Carolyn Nicander Mohr

Related Books

How to Speak. How to Listen by Mortimer Adler

How to Talk So Kids Will Listen & Listen So Kids Will Talk by Faber and Mazlish

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love That lasts by Gary Chapman

Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus by John Gray

Wired for Love by Stan Tatkin

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Stan Faryna

An American living in Bucharest, Romania, Stan Faryna searches for better questions about who we are, what we’re doing, and how we shall better know ourselves and love others. He hopes for answers that fill the heart, lift it up, and substantiate the dignity of the human person.

Stan’s Unofficial Blog
Twitter: @Faryna
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Recap: @GuyKawasaki gushes about Google + on @BruceSallan’s #dadchat

May 30, 2012

“The way to gain traction on Google+ is to search for the keywords that describe your passions and then interact with those folks.”

That’s what Guy Kawasaki is saying. Why is he saying that?! What does Guy know that we don’t?

Note: This #DadChat RECAP appeared last week on Bruce Sallan’s blog.

Is G+ misunderstood?

Is G+ enchanting?

If not now, how can it be?

Enquiring minds want to know!

The Beatles, The Yellow Submarine

Who is Guy Kawasaki?

Haters say Guy is the Grand Inquisitor of the new Googledom. Nevermind the haters!

Guy is the greatest of all the old school Apple fanboys. He’s the prime evangelist, a venture capitalist, an author, and the genius that conceived of AllTop before social media knew they had a need for information and news aggregation.

More about Guy here:

What the Plus! – Guy Kawasaki comes to #DadChat

Google didn’t pay him to write the book, Guy explained on #dadchat – the Thursday night tweetchat hosted by Bruce Sallan.

Guy says he’s slaying the dragons (G+ hate and disinterest) for the love of it. Because it’s the best tool right now says Guy. He even wrote a book about Google +: What the Plus!

What the Plus! is also Guy’s first ebook.

You can download the free PDF of Guy Kawasaki’s first version of What the Plus! here:

https://t.co/w4HsjdjP

The transcript for the #dadchat with Guy Kawasaki is here:

http://beta.hashtracking.com/ht-pro-rpt/cjeffers-dadchat-2012-05-17

Join the fun! Log-in to #dadchat every Thursday night at 6pm PST: http://www.tweetchat.com/room/dadchat

Snips and Bites From the Dadchat

The tweets listed below only represent a fraction of the chat and participants. See the transcript for the complete record of this epic chat.

G+! Big YES or little no?

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

I spend 2-3 hours a day on Google+

Andrew Israel (@aspenspin):

i’ve tried to embrace Google+ but the silence is deafening…

Peggy Petzpatrick (@PegFitzpatrick):

Lots of people are using hangouts. I had a hilarious one w/ @TheDaveReynolds. It went really international.

Angela Maiers (@AngelaMaiers):

I agree. Love the instant and easy access. Hangouts are awesome!

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

Google+ is just like Mac in the 80s: fewer using, better, experts say it will fail

Tim McVaigh (@BrandIdeas):

Thanks for your insights your passion is always so energizing

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

It took me about a week to “get it”

Calvin Lee (@mayhemstudios):

I’m getting to old to be shocked lol

Vincent Daly (@CuteMonsterDad):

 Is G+ beta?

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

The key to starting with Google+ is to search for keywords that describe your passions and then interact

Marcos Queijeiro (@marcosque):

I don’t wanna disturb the #dadchat moment but this is my interview with @GuyKawasaki Check it later 🙂 http://t.co/gqdORsMA

Mimi Baker (@MimiBakerMN):

And there are just SO many sites to learn. Seems I can only do so much with each SoMe site!

Is G+ enchanting?

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

I fell in love with Google+. Google didn’t ask me to write the book. I just decided to one day.

Wendy Wright (@ChoosingLoveAZ):

I can’t seem to find people on Google+ easily

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

Unfortunately, social games have thus far failed on G+.

Addendum

People aren’t connected on G+ like they are on Facebook or Twitter. Twitter would do better with a social game integration than Google Plus. Maybe that’s one of the challenges that G+ has to overcome: make the quality and relevance of the connection between G+ users.

Tim McVaigh (@BrandIdeas):

Google+ is twitter with elbow room gives you space to write

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

Eg, if we did [#dadchat] on Google+, you’d all be watching and hearing video of me instead of trying to follow a hashtag

Patrick Phillips (@patricksplace):

The best social platform is the one where you enjoy the people your socializing with

Kenna Griffin (@profkrg):

I haven’t figured out anything I can do on G+ that I’m not doing elsewhere with the same people.

Jack (@MunkayJacked):

Google+ is seen as being for a Techie niche. That’s the reputation it has.

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

Will Google+ beat Facebook: Who knows… Would you have predicted FB would trounce [MySpace] 6 years ago?

Michael Q. Todd (@mqtodd)

@hashtracking Warning @brucesallan & @guykawasaki conspiring to crash your site on #dadchat

… 

What needs to change in G+?

Guy Kawasaki (@GuyKawasaki):

What I would tell Google+: Remove the hideous black bars around pictures less than 500 pixels

Build in Replies and More (Chrome extension) to foster engagement

Stan Faryna (@Faryna):

I’d like to see more creative license in the profile space. It’s like what Facebook does.

Oh – what Facebook does has nothing to do with good design.

Addendum

Ultimately, Google + didn’t up the quality of the social media experience – it didn’t revolutionize the social platform standard. They have the brain power and resources to do that. Why aren’t they doing it?

Mimi Baker (@MimiBakerMN):

I have yet to “talk” to anyone who uses Google + like they use Facebook or Twitter.

STAY IN THE LOOP!

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http://www.brucesallan.com/?arrows=true

Related Blog Posts

Forbes Book Review: What the Plus! by Jerry Weissman

Is #SocialMEDIA Your Social #LIFE by Bruce Sallan

Interview with Guy Kawasaki by John Jantsch

What The Plus! by Matthew May

What’s the Plus? Giving Google Plus a second fair chance by Taly Weiss

Related Books/Links

What the Plus! Google+ for the Rest of Us by Guy Kawasaki

Newsjacking by David Meerman Scott

Likeable Social Media by Dave Kerpen

The Thank You Economy by Gary Vaynerchuk

Poke the Box by Seth Godin

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Stan Faryna

An American living in Bucharest, Romania, Stan Faryna searches for better questions about who we are, what we’re doing, and how we shall better know ourselves and love others. He hopes for answers that fill the heart, lift it up, and substantiate the dignity of the human person.

Recently on his blog: Fix The Twitter Unfollow Bug Already!

Stan’s Unofficial Blog
Twitter: @Faryna
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Spare the rod and spoil the child?! @BruceSallan #DadChat Recap

May 21, 2012

Spare the rod and spoil the child?

That ain’t in the Bible! But there’s several equivalents in the Old Testament – most of them in Proverbs. Here’s one example of such:

He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes (diligently). Proverbs 13:24

Note: This #DadChat RECAP appeared last week on Bruce Sallan’s blog.

Are parents spoiling their kids?

Are you? Am I?

That’s what Bruce Sallan (@BruceSallan on Twitter) is asking. He asks himself in last week’s weekly column, Entitled. Last Thursday, Bruce and co-hosts Charlie (@HowToBeADad) AND Andy (@betadad) asked the big questions at #Dadchat.

Do you spoil your kid(s)?

Why do you spoil your kid(s)?

How do you teach kid(s) otherwise?

Doris Day, You Are My Sunshine

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College, Parents, Money and Kids: #Dadchat RECAP

May 14, 2012

WHO KNEW that college could be so traumatic – to parents!

This #DadChat RECAP also appeared last week on Bruce Sallan’s blog.

How do parents pay for a kid (or more) to go to college when a four year degree costs as much as a house? As it is, one in three American families is financially challenged by rent or mortgage.

Will the kids get an education that provides life-long competitive advantages or just literacy and a long term debt load on student loans? The world is amidst great change – whole economies too.

What happens if your kid drops out? Or, yikes, what if your kid doesn’t want to go to college. It might work out for little Bobby or Sue, but can you live with that as a parent? Without an ulcer?

Bob Dylan, The times they are a changin

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Most Post: Featuring @StartYourNovel @BruceSallan @seanclark @virtuosoblogger @TedRubin et al.

May 3, 2012

This Week in Most Post: Fabienne Flessel, John Magnet Bell, Bruce Sallan, Sean Clark, Joe Pawlikowski, Ted Rubin, Gord Hotchkiss and Davina Brewer.

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

……

A Week of the Blogosphere in Review: The Most Post.
Most… w-h-a-t?

Decide for yourself and let me know in the comments.

Jefferson Airplane, White Rabbit

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How to make friends and influence people in social media

April 24, 2012

How to make friends and influence people in social media

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

If you follow Gini Dietrich, Bill Dorman or Bruce Sallan, you’ll understand everything that I have to say here. Because there’s no better lesson than the lesson you’ve seen lived out by the people you know. IRL or social.

Like IRL, social is something you have to live – automation, enthusiasm, and/or drama does not deliver consistent and sustainable results. Nor value.

It should go without saying. That there is no difference between IRL or social when it comes to making friends and becoming influential. It just is. Until we are replaced by robots. That’s why Klout, Kred, and Empire Avenue can’t help you.

Queen, We Are The Champions

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Stayin’ Alive: @BruceSallan @lilachbullock @Billy_Delaney @TheJackB @StartYourNovel

February 3, 2012

blog soup 02.03.2012

Stayin’ Alive: Pulp Fiction, Silly Walks, and TGIF!

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Bee Gees, Stayin’ Alive

1. The REAL Differences Between Men and Women, Part One by Bruce Sallan

Bruce says the sexes are different.

Maybe, they are. [wink]

My comment:

Garl Gustav Jung may have described a man’s soul in feminine-like terms. And a woman’s soul in masculine-like terms.

That said, let it be known that I have a good relationship with my inner, sexy, blonde. She’s a sex bomb. And a princess!

For example, I turn up the volume on my lap top and let the music play.

It starts with a little Haddaway: 

No laughing please. That includes you, Betsy.

After I have skipped around the apartment in my underwear, lifted my arms high, let my hair swing, and spun around a few times to Haddaway, I throw Seal up on the wide screen. 

Seal is so sexy! And Heidi, OMG!

I hold my lighter lit until my thumb has second degree burns. But I keep holding it lit. I don’t let the light die. Not me.

Then, I grab a pillow and bop the white chow chow on the head as Cyndi Lauper tells it like it is.

The white chow chow scurries to hide under the dinner table.

Did I hear a giggle? Don’t! Period.

I hop and skip to the bathroom, light a dozen mango-scented candles, dump two pounds of rose-scented salt into the jacuzzi tub and let the tub to fill.

By this point, Seal is back again on the wide screen. Because I feel amazing!

I’m back in the bathroom, swinging my shoulders to the beat of Seal’s song as I rub Kiehl’s Pineapple Papaya Facial Scrub in tiny circles across my forehead, around my eyes and lips, and under my chin.

I rinse off the Pineapple Papaya Facial Scrub and prepare Dr. Hauschka’s Cleansing Clay Mask.

Enigma’s Return to Innocence is playing now.

The tub is full. I turn on the jacuzzi jets. 

Rose fragrance fills the room as the water froths and bubbles. I close my eyes and imagine standing in the Bulgarian valley of the roses in the last week of May. Kilometers (miles) of pink Dasmascus roses about to bloom.

I step slowly in the hot water and then slide into the tub.

The world falls away. In the distance, I hear Enya’s Orinoco Flow.

I see the waves break against the bow. The sails flap and the boom throws starboard. I lean out over the moving water as the sunfish lifts and dances across the emerald ocean waves.

The sun sparkles across the water like the smile of God.

Eyes still closed, I reach over, unwrap a Mon Cheri, and touch it to my lips. I place it between my teeth and bite gently, enjoying chocolate, sweet liquor, and cherry in their separate flavors.

Vangelis’ Last Mohican comes on.

I kick up some water.

I shout out to my love:

You stay alive, no matter what occurs! I will find you. No matter how long it takes, no matter how far, I will find you.

I throw a bar of rose soap at a bottle of Yes-to-carrots shampoo. The enemy falls from the ridge to their death.

I throw a bar of L’Occitane Verbena at a bottle of Dr. Bronner’s Magical Peppermint soap. The enemy slides into the churning waters of death’s cup.

Enya’s May It Be plays.

I stretch. I feel myself alive. I feel gentle and pretty.

Then there’s a sound. A bubble rises to the surface. And it doesn’t smell so pretty.

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2. 7 Reasons Why Networking Is A Waste Of Time by Rob Brown

Rob Brown is guest posting for Lilach Bullock.

Rob suggests that the indiscriminate emphasis on networking is foolish.

My comment:

There is something amazing about connecting with other human beings. It’s uplifting. Our hearts and minds are often enlarged in the engagement. We discover ourselves through others. We discover others. The world!

If we are fortunate, we see the gift that the other is for us. And also fortunate – if they see the gift that we are to them.

Do to others as you would have them do to you. Luke 6:31

Regardless of the event, platform, or attendance, what really counts is your attitude, where your heart is, and your commitment to love, give, and shine. 

Curate people (not content), connect others with each other, and unleash the dreams and beauty of others to shine out in this world!

Thanks Lilach and Rob for the inspiration!

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3. Is this the year of video for blogging and marketing your business? by Billy Delaney

Billy is not the only one excited about Youtube. RWW hails YouTube as a change agent for global economic transformation.

Asks Billy:

This year I have read that Blogging is going to be taken over by video. Could this be true?

My short answer: No.

My comment:

Let’s get some things straight.

1. I like Billy.

I think Billy writes beautifully. Often, he lifts the curtain for us to see the fool behind it. And, sometimes, it is us. Last but not least, Billy shares with his head, hands, and heart.

I especially like his recent blog posts about the sinking ship, his hand me down iPhone 3GS, and breaking the egg in social media.

2. Billy is right! He’s right that if you want to speak to the world, you’ll have to do it in a way that’s easy to consume. And video is perfect.

3. The dawn of Idiocracy is upon us.

a. The proliferation of crappy and copyright infringed video and music will suck more than the proliferation of crappy writing and copyright infringed copy.

b. And most people will be ok with that. [laughing]

Billy is right on. If you want to engage people beyond your core service or business and direct interaction, video is as good as crack.

As I mentioned in a recent discussion on #kiwkchat, video is the obvious win-win if…

1. If you can afford to do it right
2. If it can be done to the level of your brand
3. If it can be done to the level of your customer’s expectations of your services/product/offer

I have had the opportunity to direct video production, serve as a creative director on video story production, write scripts and stories, and assist in the recording of voices, music, and sound. Without any formal education, training, or certification! But with some help from young professionals who knew a few things – but not all things.

Sometimes, it turned out ok-ish.

Ok-ish isn’t cheap. It was cheaper, of course, than going to a professional film maker slash advertising production company.

$15,000 for something ok-ish. I saved about $10,000 each time. I was thrilled about the savings for our self-promo work. And so were my clients when it was client work.

Did I mention that I already had a team of salaried graphic designers, illustrators and fine artists, and audio engineers for the software development that I was doing? Not to mention that I paid for professional consulting at “friendly” rates.

OK, yes, the proliferation of amateur and bad video has diminished our sensibilities and prolly we can get away with okish things easily for $10,000 a pop. And I know plenty of professionals that are ready to work with me on client work. These days, they’ll do a gig for about $15,000.

The Youtube platform also reduces these costs because if we are only talking about YouTube quality: the quality of picture and sound don’t require all of the art, technology, and skill that goes into something being presented well on a 50-inch or wider screen with 5.1 surround sound.

I am not a professional videographer. Nor am I a professional film maker. I’m all about the online thing and, yes, it is also true that everything happens online. Anyway, I do have friends that serve Hollywood and the like. And they don’t think I’m talking out of my ass.

Aside:

How come no one ever wonders how a nobody like me got background vocals from Robert Pattinson, the male lead of the hit movie Twilight, for my podcast, Do not be afraid?

So, let’s say you find someone who agrees to make you 12 videos/year for $84,000. For something ok-ish. If your market is 10s of millions (or more) of customers, it would be stupid not to do it. Or if you want to market to 10s of millions of potential customers. OR if your revenues are 10s of millions of Dollars or Euros.

But even if that’s your situation, it’s prolly something you’ve never done, and you don’t saddle up on new expenses justlikethat [sic].

So here we are, Billy, me, the Jack B (aka Abigail), and Dr. Jack King for example and our economics aren’t in the tens of millions. Not yet. [grin]

What are we going to do?

That’s a lot of hats for one man (or woman) to wear: camera man, graphic artist, video editor, sound engineer, script writer, creative director, producer, and director. And, honestly, I think it’s ridiculous to try to wear that many hats, myself. They just don’t sit well (or topple) on the crown.

What are we going to do?!

Collaboration is the only right answer.

What can you do for the professional videography team? Something that makes it worth it to his/her team to do things with you?

Sometimes we’re looking so hard for a competitive edge… that we will champion a vorpal sword that will, snicker snack, and cut our hands off.

Or toes.

Perhaps, that explains my silly walk.

Oh- below is an unfinished video that I worked on last year. It has a long, long way to go yet.


Subscribe to Billy Delaney’s Blog, Social Tango

Need more Billy Delaney? Check out the following:

What happens when you place a potential customer before an actual one?

Getting an Education vs Getting Learning!

Ever Feel Like This When You Go Onto The Social Media Stream?


4. How An Ugly Toe Turned Into A Great Opportunity by Abigail Van Buren (aka The JackB)

Explains Jack:

Sunday afternoon I got out of bed and my legs gave out from under me. It was mutiny most foul and I haven’t a clue why it happened.

But, more importantly, Jack gives thanks:

Thank you universe. You have given me more than I shared and more than I realized.

My comment:

Writes Jack:

Sometimes, pain leads to something better.

Perhaps, it all depends on what we do with that pain.

Do we correct the course? Fill the sail? Turn right more often than spinning around and around?

It’s something to think about.

Subscribe to Abigail Van Buren’s blog, The Jack B.

Need more Abigail Van Buren? Check out the following:

Blogging Should be Like Great Sex – Fun!

How To Deal With Mean Girls & Mean Moms

How 3,000 Sycophants Made One Man A Better Blogger

5. I Remember All the Fleas On My Back by J.M. Bell

Bell concludes:

The Elephant Grandmaster would stomp the emissaries’ balls if she got wind of the incident.

Luciano Pavarotti, Placido Domingo, Jose Carreras, Nessun Dorma

My humble contribution:

“Jiggerface, yeah, how’d he get a face like that?”

I know she was wondering that too. Maybe, it was the new crocodile which wasn’t so new since the new crocodile had been around for at least a nickel’s worth of years.

“Just kill him, bring me his beady face and fat head, and you can have the chick or the car,” she replied and stomped her heavy foot.

“I want both,” I told her as I tossed her a peanut.

The salty peanut distracted her.

“We’ll talk about it,” she said as she swallowed the peanut.

“It savors if you chew,” I suggested. Then, I made a gesture as if about to toss her the brown bag of peanuts.

“Ok-ok-ok. Chick and car. Just do it,” she gasped.

I tossed it to her. She put her face in the bag.

“You know, the peanuts are free at Five Guys,” I laughed. But she was too busy stuffing her face to hear my contempt.

Subscribe to JM Bell’s blog, Start Your Novel.

Need more JM Bell? Check out the following:

What can Monty Python teach you about writing?

What can Woody Allen teach you about writing?

What can Darth Vader teach you about writing?

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Stan Faryna
03 February 2012
Bucharest, Romania

P.S.

No fairies were harmed during the writing and publishing of this blog post.


Blog Soup 2011.11.18 What are you doing online? Why?

November 18, 2011

Blog Soup

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Blog Soup 2011.11.18 What are you doing online? Why?

What are you doing with your life? What are you doing online? What is your purpose? What is your function? Why?

You don’t know? Have you considered the advice of the Duchess to Alice (Alice of Wonderland)?

Be what you would seem to be — or, if you’d like it put more simply — Never imagine yourself not to be otherwise than what it might appear to others that what you were or might have been was not otherwise than what you had been would have appeared to them to be otherwise.

About Blog Soup

I read a lot of blogs. Maybe, too many. I comment on a lot of blog posts. Maybe, too many. If you are a Triberrati, you do too.

A Triberrati is a blogger that stands out in the Triberr community. Triberr is a web app that connects bloggers and helps them to curate each other on Twitter. You can learn all about Triberr by reading any of the following posts about it.

1. Nicole Humphrey CookThe Idiots Guide to Triberr Tutorial

2. Yomar LopezHow Triberr Changes The Competitive Landscape

3. Neicole CrepeauFriday Fives: Tips For Using Triberr

I intend to write pithy, poignant comments that may help you truly rediscover yourself through the blog posts of friends and strangers. In terms of your journey of self discovery, the destinations are not as important as is your own personal negotiation of the questions, answers, and confusions which you may discover by following a link, reading a blog post, poring over comments, and making a comment. On the other hand, this is our community and, yes, community is all about our commitment to the community, conversations, consensus, disagreement, participation, and, yes, to each other.

I will fail often in this endeavor, but I can, as Booker T. Washington said, keep on keeping on. Will you humor me?

Gary Portnoy, Where everybody knows your name (Cheers theme song)

2011.11.18

Caterpillar:

Who are YOU?

Alice:

This was not an encouraging opening for a conversation. I — I hardly know, sir, just at present — at least I know who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have been changed several times since then.

Featured

The blog posts that I commented on in this Blog Soup:

1. Don’t Skype your community away by Bill Dorman

2. Stop looking for success and happiness by Craig McBreen

3. Butthead Asking Dumb Questions?! Are You? by Akos Fintor

4. True Inspiration From My Most Popular YouTube Video by Adrienne Smith

5. The Only User Manual That You Will Ever Need by Marcus Baker

6. Why do I do what I do by Janet Callaway

7. Dad Bloggers Get Paid To Blog by Jack Steiner


The Crests, Trouble in Paradise

Blog Soup

My unabashed comments:

1. Don’t Skype your community away by Bill Dorman

Bill Dorman has been wondering what happened to the party. Where did everyone go? Was it the speedos? Or skype? Of course, this is Bill being tongue in cheek and charming.

My comment:

It’s not the Skype, Bill. It’s not the speedos. You’re a stand up guy. You’re likable. You’re sexy. Oops! There’s that word again. 

Everybody wants you at their party. And I’m not teasing you, Bill.

The problems are several. And I know you’ve been waiting for me to sum it up. After all, that’s what I do. I go deep and think it through because I can. [grin] Of course, I can try to dish it out with my own tongue in cheek. But I’ll never do it with your finesse, Bill.

5. High School Prejudice

Some people lack the professional culture to deal with people they don’t like. In other words, they haven’t graduated from high school. So if they see someone they don’t like hanging out at your place, they may stop coming by.

It’s their loss, Bill. I continue to contribute at several watering holes despite the frauds, fucktards, and stupid clowns that frequent the same.

4. Faking it is no fun

Most people just can’t fake it forever. They need to get off. [grin]

Being positive, encouraging, and kindly when your trudging through the bull shit can try anyone’s patience. Some do it day in and out without any hard evidence of tomorrow’s reward and they will pick up their toys and head home – sooner or later.

3. This Ain’t Easy Street

It just doesn’t work. Not you, Bill! Blogging!!! It’s not the game changer they hoped it would be. Because it ain’t easy. It takes work. Not everyone can succeed. And there’s no guarantees for success even for those that show promise. Granted, it takes the average Joe or Jane three to six months to figure that out. 

2. Boot Lickers and Suck Ups

It’s not obvious that you’re in the in crowd. Are you best buddies with 12 B-list bloggers and a minimum of three A-list bloggers?

Do they mention you, give you props, and throw you a link in their blog posts from time to time?

People need a reason to suck up and lick boot.

1. Where’s the Money?

You don’t have a weekly “how to” on how someone can easily move and improve it by an inch.

Bill, they need to pay bills. They have the need to succeed.

You keep doing what you are doing. Lift your allies with you as you level up. Give it three years and you’ll be an online authority. Perhaps, a sensation! Mark my words, Bill.

2. Stop looking for success and happiness by Craig McBreen

Writes Craig McBreen:

Self-help is for suckers.

My comment:

Amen.

Reading the statement, “I rock. I will succeed because I rock hard,” one hundred times will not make you successful. Thinking that statement one hundred times won’t do it. Writing that statement one hundred times won’t do it either. Because that’s not how magic and fairy tales work.

Life is hard.

That’s what James writes here.

Magic comes from killing dragons, demons, and all the things that own you through fear. Fairy tales are the stories of fears faced and conquered, virtues exercised in decision and action, and the triumph of the hero, heroine, or saint.

Don’t just do it. And don’t just do something. Do good, do it often, and do it well.

Awesome post, Craig!

3. Butthead Asking Dumb Questions?! Are You? by Akos Fintor

Ako’s Twitter Bio Statement:

Helping others to break limiting beliefs about success. One belief at a time.

Akos asks you if you are asking the right questions?

What can I learn from this or How can I turn this around?

My comment:

When the fuck does it get easier?

That’s what Frank Dickinson asks via a reposted guest post by @LisaMilesBrady.

It just happens that I have some thoughts to share.

I am personally acquainted with dozens of millionaires and former millionaires. A handful inherited their wealth. Most of them made their wealth by mostly illegal means. Only a handful of these acquaintances made their wealth by strictly legal, honest, good decisions, and hard work. Most of the latter have lost their wealth.

Having spent considerable time and intimate conversation with such persons, I can tell you that their successes had little to do with asking themselves questions, being positive, and doing the right thing. The most common answer, being in the right place at the right time, is a euphemism.

A euphemism is a substitution of an inoffensive term for one considered offensively explicit and scandalous.

Few are driven simply by greed, a will to power, and a want to make the world around them – their empire. Most are fueled by fear, hatred, and contempt, they do unspeakable things, they lack conscience, and they don’t get caught. They prey upon the weak, the weak-minded, and the poor of spirit (the cowardly) at every opportunity. They do not create wealth by being fair, generous, or conscientious. Nor do they keep wealth by such means.

I wish I could share an example with you of how wealth is hoarded and carved out of the souls and chests of lesser men. But anyone of them reading it would be so offended that I would rise to a top spot on their shit list. And that would be especially stupid to promote myself into the cross hairs. [grin]

So I leave it to your imagination to fill in the details.

4. True Inspiration From My Most Popular YouTube Video by Adrienne Smith

Writes Adrienne:

… no matter what little thing you do, you can still inspire and help others.

My comment:

As the troubles of this world grow, ever greater is our yearning for the things that fuel hope. Inspire, encourage, and lift others up.

Because at the end of the day (be it six months or twelve years), when you look back on what you did online, if you inspired, encouraged and lifted others up, you will know you did something that reflects the beautiful, the good, and the true.

And that may be worth more than the million dollars that never found its way into your bank account.

And then there’s Lisa Gerber who has some insights to share about  fundraising. Indeed, the Crowdwise motto is even something to consider beyond fundraising. It applies perfectly to social media.

If you didn’t give back no one will like you.

And writing that, immediately I thought of Professor Michael Schlesinger from the Atmospheric Sciences School at the University of Illinois at Urbana. He recently edited an important book on climate change and alarming estimates of the expected impacts which will devastate communities and regions, Human-Induced Climate Change.

Well done, Adrienne.

5. The Only User Manual That You Will Ever Need by Marcus Baker

Ask, Release, Believe and Receive

Explains Marcus:

These words describe in exact sequence the way to create your ideal life using the law of attraction…

My comment:

One of the problems that I often observe about those who recommend the law of attraction is the lack of true and unembarrassed commitment to the thing as truth. In other words, people talk about it but they don’t demonstrate it. And if it is a truth, it must be demonstrable. Just as demonstrable as pain or hurt.

And we all know that everybody hurts.

I propose that 12 of us make a demonstration. Each of us make a blog post, name the thing of our desires, ask for it, release it, believe it, and receive it within three months. It should be something that is out of our natural and ordinary reach, capacity, and competence. I further propose that Marcus lead us in this spiritual demonstration, guide us in the release, and finally, tabulate, announce, and analyze the results.

Count me in on this. Who else is ready to receive!

What say you, Marcus?

Awesome post, Marcus!

6. Why do I do what I do by Janet Callaway

Asks Janet:

Do you ever stop to think about why you do what you do?

Janet shares one of her favorite quotes from Katharin Graham:

To love what you do and to feel that it matters–how could anything be more fun?

What I didn’t write:

Writes @TheJackB:

One of the reasons I am a frequent visitor to your blog is because I like surrounding myself with happy people. You always have such positive energy it is hard not to smile.

Jack’s comment took me by surprise. And I’m still grinning. Or was that scratching my head?

Anyway, I often wonder if bloggers love what they are doing. For example, I hope Margie Clayman loves what she’s doing. Because I love what she’s doing. Have you seen her last blog post, Help Me Help Guatemala?

Writes Nic Wirtz about Guatemala:

In a country where half the population survive on less than $2 a day, you don’t have to go far to find poverty. Generally it’s already looking for you.

My comment:

The story of Judy and Ed is heart warming. Thank you for sharing that awesome story with us, Janet.

If only we were all so blessed with an opportunity to sell things that we believe in with the deepest personal conviction!

Myself, there are few things for which I can rave about. And not all of those few for good reason.

Anyway, here’s five:

1. Dr. Bronner’s Magical Peppermint Soap
2. The New American Bible
3. Harrod’s Earl Grey Tea No. 42 (I’m enjoying a mug of it as I type)
4. Certified Kona Coffee Beans (lightly roasted)
5. William Shakespeare’s Collected Works

My own doubts, however, can not compete with my hope that Judy and Ed will live long, happy, and love-strong lives with the least pain possible.

Considering again my doubts, I have to smile because I remember what Betsy Cross writes here:

Sometimes the facts lie.

7. Dad Bloggers Get Paid To Blog by Jack Steiner

Writes Jack:

I want to earn enough to support my family. I tell my children that they need to push to live their dreams and not dream their lives. I can do no less.

My comment:

I like what Jack is saying.

I am trying. I am pushing. I am asking for help. It is not easy for me. I don’t like doing it and I am not sure that I am asking the right questions but I am doing my best.

That’s what any of us can do, Jack. Own it. Do. Push. Ask for help. Keep moving. Just like Danny recently did. He moved on to Jugnoo, don’t you know! In fact, a good move. Corporate clients for social media seem to be drying up.

Keep on keeping on, Jack.

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Stan Faryna
18 November 2011
Bucharest, Romania

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What is Occupy Wall Street? And other social media DOHs #ows

October 27, 2011

What is Occupy Wall Street? 

by Stan Faryna

Stan Faryna

Elvis Presley, Amazing Grace

Often, I do not spell out the social media lesson. I treat my blog posts that do illuminate social media DOHs as parables. The parable here is especially elusive and I allow it to remain so. Because we must accustom ourselves to the reality that the heart will know things long before the mind can comprehend.

Some of you may know that I have recently made several comments on Bruce Sallan’s blog post, The Value of Money and Occupy Wall Street, and to the comments there. However, the most important of those comments, perhaps, is the one I publish here. I understand that it reproduces poorly here out of context – at least at it’s start. Because I begin my comment by addressing a comment that attempts to analyze the OWS movement according to Martin Luther King, Jr.’s philosophy on civil disobedience and non-violent protest.

At the end of my long comment, I answer the question, what is Occupy Wall Street about.

I may be wrong. And I may be mistaken about many things. It is my intuitional opinion and it being an opinion and an intuition, it is neither necessarily right, wrong, worthwhile, nor useless. It just is.

You be the judge of whether or not my opinion speaks loudly to your heart or not. Because you alone are responsible for what you accept into your heart as a compelling instance of the beautiful, the good, and the true.

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