Serendipity and meaningful coincidences. And other social media DOHs. 5 Minute Therapy

July 1, 2011

Do you believe?

Do you believe in serendipitous events, synchronicity, fatefully defining moments, or meaningful coincidence?

Moby and Mylene Farmer, Slipping Away

Have you had one or more chance encounters that feel magical or even fateful? An encounter that is embedded with uncorrelated and unexpected feelings, anticipations, or meaningfulness. Some of you will know what I’m trying to describe. And you will know it – not because you believe in these things. Nor because you imagine them!

You know because you really do know them as real events; these events are in your memory – memories of your concrete experience of the real world.

What do you know?

Knowing and understanding, of course, are different. And we (you and me) are likely to make the mistake of thinking that we believe a thing that we know to be real and true when we lack understanding of a thing.

Consider the irony of the following statements. And never-you-mind the poetic potential. <grin>

I believe in blue skies.

I believe in sunny days.

I believe in roosters that crow at dawn.

Mistaking knowledge for belief, however, is especially frequent when overwhelming opinion does not confirm the inventory of our personal experience and knowledge.

If you have no idea what I’m talking about (serendipity, synchronicity, and meaningful coincidence), you’ve just got a free, five dollar tour of human cognition, metaphysics, and reality. The next logical click for you is to a meditation on black swans. Go and contemplate black swans here.

In other words, move along. There’s nothing else in this blog post for you. Oh – check back here some other day. Because I do write about everything. Eventually.

What is knowledge – if it is not uplifting?

If your heart was pounding from the first question, stay with me. Forever.

Now that you understand that what you believed was, in fact, real and true, how does that make you feel?

What would you have done differently in that moment if you had understood that what you were feeling was real?

How often have you let something or someone slip through your fingers when you knew something was meant to be?

Speak your heart with me.

Stan Faryna
25 June, 2011
Valley of the Roses (Kazanlak), Bulgaria

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The Great Divorce: The chest drops out of a Patsak

February 25, 2008

Yesterday, I attended the second hearing in our divorce proceedings. Again, she did not show up for the hearing. Anyway, she gets everything- so to speak. There was no necessity for any kind of court room drama.

It is almost done.

Like evil waiting upon the results, ready to count the casualties and measure the precise pitch and degree of devastation, confusion and chaos.

And when this evil is accomplished, still divorce remains a difficulty, an enigma and a paradox to me and my highest hopes. The future just hangs there.

I wait for answers. Patience now…

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It feels like evil. Perhaps, because it may be, in fact, evil. All of our good will could neither prevail nor prevent this sudden termination of the most beautiful… promises, oaths and legal obligations. On the other hand, beautiful things can be as fleeting as the beauty of a lifeless, cut flower-  when these things are not meant and only made from convenience.

And yet – even if evil – this does not preclude a distant happy ending, only unhappy results and a heart-felt penitence that must be conducted and managed with even greater responsibility, better decision and more noble action than evidenced in our practice and commitment in marriage.

Beyond Good and Evil, there is a breakdown (a la Heidegger) in myself, my destiny, and my eternal integrity.

Everything seems changed.

Love, marriage, and me are no longer what they seemed to be. Yes, I am changed, changing, and becoming something else — not without heart aching and unbid tears.

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Another great movie from Emir Kusturica

February 2, 2008

Five cent tour:

Youtube clip (link) of a German trailer for Emir Kusturica’s award-winning movie, Life is a Miracle. And my take on how the ass saves the day.

Steve Ballmer: Will his stubborn vision revitalize Microsoft by taking over Yahoo. Or is he just an ass?

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Emir Kusturica

Today, I saw yet another fantastic movie by Emir Kusturica, Life is a Miracle (2004). Here’s a German trailer for the movie:

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The orignial title is Zivot je cudo. This is the third movie by Kusturica I’ve seen. The other two were Underground and Black Cat, White Cat. Having enjoyed three of Kusturica’s movies, I’m grateful to my friend, Mihai Coman, for introducing me to Kusturica’s work.

A great and dramatic story that finishes with a happy ending- it can feed that faint spark of hope inside of me. That is important to me. Because I too need fuel, sometimes.

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